Getting a Handle on CPTSD

Shamelessly copied So many people want closure from a narcissist. YOU DON’T NEED IT FROM THEM. Now, what sort of closure can you expect from someone with the emotional maturity of a toddler? Give it to yourself. Pull down the shutters and bolt every door so that they never open again. Let them toddle off into whatever hell they have created for themselves. You’ve got your clarity and you know it’s better this way. That’s your closure. ’ When a relationship with a narcissist comes to an end, many people find that they can’t move on with their lives until they find closure. Closure is not going to come from the narcissist. It has got to come from yourself. There will be no, ‘I’m sorry, I treated you badly,’ or ‘I didn’t mean to hurt you.’ Narcissists like to think that you will forever be under their influence and control. They don’t care if you’re struggling and find it difficult to move on without any form of closure from them. They are not going to feel any shred of r...

  It is totally an internal reality which we have and has little to do with what is going on in the outside world. It consists of our past,reactions to our past, societal and cultural expectations,gender expectations , and faulty thinking. the problem is that it takes up a huge chunk of mental space: it needs to quietly deconstructed by self education and introspection; once this has started we can learn to build internal and eternal boundaries and as we evolve our inner core may be strong enough to make those boundaries a little flexible- within our value system which hopefully has become clear as we do our self work....... I Think :-)